I’m not supposed to love you, but I do, I do.
I’m not supposed to love you. But I do.
Too much, ah-ah-ah-ah.
It’s too much, ah-ah-ah-ah.
That’s the ache of it. We all have something we love too much. Something we keep going back to even when we know better.
Here’s the thought I had with it this morning.
Oscar Wilde once said: “Everything in moderation, including moderation.”
That line cuts both ways. Sit with it.
Most of us are getting too much of something we don’t even notice anymore. So today is just a quick gut-check.
Are you spending more than four hours a day on social media? Can you set your phone down for an hour and actually do something else? When was the last time you read a book? When was the last time you let yourself be bored?
Are you drinking too much? Smoking too much weed? Too much tobacco? Napping too much? Watching too much TV?
Are you restricting your diet at all — or are you rewarding yourself with garbage every time something goes right? I used to do that. Close a deal, eat like a fool. Hit a number, celebrate with the worst possible food. What a fool I was. The reward was burning down the body that did the work.
Are you digesting instead of creating?
That’s the question that stopped me this morning. Digesting instead of creating. Most of us scroll, watch, listen, consume — and never make anything of our own.
Where can you show a little temperance today? Where can you pull back?
But Wilde was clever. Moderation in moderation. So here’s the flip side.
If you’re wound up too tight — where could you let loose a little? Live a little?
Book the day trip to Red River Gorge. Drive up to Bloomington for a day trip. Grab the tickets to a band you enjoy. Get the seats to your favorite sports team. Plan the boys trip. Make the dinner reservation at the spot you keep reading about and never end up going to.
Life is short.
If you’re bored in business, what would it hurt to learn a new trade? Hear about a different way to invest? Talk to someone who runs something completely different than you do?
If you’ve been hiding, maybe it’s time to come out and talk to some other like-minded operators.
If you’ve been over-socializing, bake in more quiet time for yourself.
This isn’t about discipline for discipline’s sake. It’s about finding the right edges for your own life.
Choose to be better. Be more mindful. Let loose a little.
And bake in more time to be bored. Because that’s where all the creation happens. Not in the scroll. Not in the next podcast. In the quiet. In the boredom. In the space where your brain finally has room to make something.
Then go run off to AI and build the thing.
People try to do all sorts of clever and difficult things to improve life instead of doing the simplest, easiest thing—refusing to participate in activities that make life bad.
—Tolstoy
One more thing before I go.
If you are showing temperance — if you’re making the hard, quiet choices when nobody’s watching — I’m proud of you.
I lost my mother to closet alcoholism when I was a kid. So when I see someone choosing better for themselves and the people who love them, I notice. It means something to me.
Keep going. Keep choosing. Couldn’t be prouder.
Warmly,
Rob Bergeron
Owner–Realtor at Award-Winning Winner Realty
PS: Make it a great day!